It’s the little things that make up our lives.
and little known results.
Song of Songs 2:15
15 Catch for us the foxes,
the little foxes
that ruin the vineyards,
our vineyards that are in bloom. NIV 1984
Last night one of my daughters decided to be helpful. She took the pumpkin pie out of the oven and scooped out all the filling. She put it into containers and then put it in the fridge. I came into the kitchen and freaked out a bit. My lovely pumpkin pie was ruined. 😦 I yelled and sent her to bed.
Then cleaned up the mess and thought about why she did that… thought about her heart motive. Shame-faced, I realized she had taken out the filling so she could put the pie in the fridge without it being too hot and cracking the glass shelves.
Oh. I felt bad. Really bad. My thoughtless words had crushed her spirit. My little choices, little words could and did have a big impact on her.
I apologized. Hugged. Prayed. Made things right.
But what about when we are adults and other people don’t say sorry, or make restitution? What then?
Should I hold onto that hurt, that anger until they apologize? After all, they are the ones in the wrong, not I.
In a perfect world this could happen. The world we live in is sinful and broken, and for some people it would be a cold day in hell before they’d even dream of saying, “Sorry.”
A quote that I love says: “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
Sometimes the other person is totally oblivious to the hurt and pain they have caused. The only person being hurt by my unforgiveness is… myself.
I have learned the best way to deal with hurts is give them to God. Sounds cliche? Yes, but it works. I tell my heavenly Father that I’m hurting (acknowledge the hurt), ask Him for help to forgive, say the words out loud (ie: “I forgive you, MaryBeth for spreading that lie about me.”) and then carry on. Sometimes I might need to repeat this several times, but when I look back on a hurtful situation the sting is gone and just the scar remains.
Ephesians 4:32 (NIV1984)
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
I owe God a far bigger debt than the person who has wronged me.
What about you? Have you thought about how you deal with hurts? Is there somebody who has hurt you? Or is there somebody that you need to say sorry to? Ask God for help, he’s always listening… and sooner is always better than later. 🙂
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