How to be a heartbreaker

How to be a heartbreaker.

I’m not talking about how to style your hair and dress to impress, or what moves to put on your crush.

This is a post about how to break others hearts.

Yes, you read that right…

Have you ever had your heart broken? Hurt didn’t it?

Speaking from experience of having my heart broken by my husband, family members, careless words from friends and even from my children I found two ways to respond.

1. Curl up in a ball and nurse the hurt.


2. Learn from it.

And yes-that is much easier said than done.

Having been hurt, would I knowingly want to hurt others? Really?

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So, back to the original question: How to break other peoples hearts.

Gently: Handle with care! Use only words and deeds that build up the other person, not tear them down. To quote Thumper from the children’s movie Bambi: If you can’t say nothin’ nice, don’t say nothin’ at all.

With God’s love: Most people are walking wounded. They are hurting, just not where you can see. So be kinder than necessary. Love more extravagantly, give more freely. It will break that person’s heart–and in a good way. 🙂

Remembering our own past: With an eye on how far I have fallen short of perfection, and am in need of forgiveness and grace. This helps me to extend the same to others.

Unexpectedly: Don’t wait for a special occasion to reach out to others or touch someone’s life. Do it now! Let someone else have the last seat on the bus. Smile at a stranger (if you think your day is bad, wait to you hear about theirs!). Compliment that grumpy looking lady on her hat or hair-do. Show an interest in a young person’s life. Break their heart with touches of grace.

Unselfishly: Put you own motives aside. Want to break that person’s heart? Empty your own on their behalf. You won’t run out of love if your source of love is from God. Remember, He has a never ending supply of it!

God never rejects a weak and weary heart that seeks Him. No matter how broken-down and overwhelmed we are, God welcomes us and is willing and able to help us. Will you do the same for others?

Psalm 51:17 (NIV)
My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit;
a broken and contrite heart
you, God, will not despise.